Your Wedding day is very special. It is a day you will remember for the rest of your life – but there is a lot of pressure on couples to conform to tradition or go along with other family members when deciding what to include (or not to) on their big day.

This is not only stressful, but you can also end up planning a wedding that makes everyone else happy but leaves you feeling a bit let down because it wasn’t what you and your partner wanted.

Below I have put together a few pointers that will get you thinking about how to plan a day that will totally reflect who you and your partner are and what makes you guys special.


Visualise the day

It’s important to decide on the type of wedding you want early. Do you want a formal ceremony and reception, outdoor ceremony and then off to a restaurant, country wedding with marquee and outdoor dance floor so you can dance the night away? Try to visualise what you think suits you and says, “this is how we do things and like to celebrate.”

Put together a mood board so you have a fair idea of the type of wedding you want. This is not so you can copy what other people are doing, it is about building up a picture of your perfect day and being able to visualise the dress, the florals, the perfect ceremony setting and reception venue. Whether you go with Pinterest or do it the old-fashioned way, this is a great way to get a “feel” for what you want in a wedding – and comes in handy later when trying to communicate that with your suppliers.


The venue.

Do you want the ceremony and reception in the same place or are you looking for a ceremony site separate to your reception venue?

If you want to get married on the beach or overlooking to ocean a lush garden setting or someplace especially significant to the two of you, all of these are places will be great for your ceremony and will give you the opportunity to hold your reception separately.

Alternately are you looking for a venue that not only provides a great space to say your vows in but also has some beautiful spots for photography and an area to give the type of reception you want.

Once you have an idea of what you want, then you can start looking to see what fits with your idea of a perfect venue, if it’s available and whether it fits within your budget.

Narrow your search down to about 5 or six venues to go and look at – too many more and you will not be able to decide or remember the differences. The last thing you want early on is to get burnt out from looking at too many places! In a very short space of time you will have found what you are looking for.

Food and drink

You no longer have to go for the traditional sit down three-course meal as part of your celebration. What is important is that there is plenty of food and that it is something that you and your guests will enjoy.

After-ceremony celebrations are a chance to do something totally different. So, think about the kind of food you enjoy – ritzy cocktail party nibbles, casual finger food, food cart vendors, shared platters, suckling pig on a spit -think outside the box and create something memorable. Find a caterer who can help you realise the vision you have and go big with the food – most people remember the dress and the food at a wedding, so make it great!

If you are having your wedding in an area that is renowned for a particular kind of product or beverage, it’s always lovely to try and include this in your day. Whether its local produce or a local ingredient, you know that it will be fresh and incredible coming from so close by on the day.

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Planning the ceremony.

Where to say your “I do’s”

Think about the look and feel you want. What is going to say “yes, this is us”.

No matter whether it’s a church, being surrounded by beautiful gardens, overlooking a backdrop that is visually stunning to a simple flower arch on the beach – make it something that you want (rather than being pushed in one direction or the other by family members) and something that fits with your idea of the perfect day. Often your ceremony photo is the one that hangs on your wall, so make it something that you will love and cherish forever.

Write your own vows.

These are the words you are using to make a lifetime commitment to each other, so how special will they be if they are your own words, rather than something written for you or taken from somewhere else. This is a chance to truly reflect on the person that you’re marrying, the kind of life you want together and how you see your future.

Music and readings

Music and readings add a special touch to your ceremony, regardless of whether it’s in a more formal church setting or you’re outside surrounded by all of nature’s glory. This is also a great way to incorporate some of the amazing people in your life into your wedding day and allows you to share the day with them. Readings don’t have to be formal or biblical; an extract from your favourite book that reflects your feelings or lyrics from a song that has meaning for the two of you can be incredibly moving.


The processional

Don’t be bound by tradition. Is it not necessary for the groom to be waiting for you to be “given away” by someone if that’s not a tradition that resonates with you. Why not walk into the ceremony together? What a statement to begin the rest of your lives together with.

It’s always a great idea to design and print a program that lists what is happening during the ceremony and why. Your guests need to know why these things have been included and why they are significant to you. It also gives them a sneak-peek into this day that you have been planning for months. You want your guests to walk away from the ceremony and feel that it was something that really suited the two of you and really reflects who you are.

The rings

It is always a fantastic process to design your own rings, and with so many jewellers working independently now, it’s easier than ever to be involved in the design process of both your engagement ring and wedding bands. But remember, you will (hopefully) have to wear these rings for the rest of your lives – so they need to be practical as well. Suspension rings, really high set diamonds and overly complicated mechanisms aren’t designed for daily wear, so consider this when working on your dream ring.

The wedding dress.

Don’t be bound by tradition here, anything goes these days! Why not look at something that really suits you and is your style, whether that’s minimal and chic, or over the top and fabulous. White, yellow, red, black, blue or anything in between, choose a dress that makes a statement about you as a person and choose a dress that you love and feel comfortable in on the day. Work with a dressmaker to design something that is bespoke or find something off the rack; spend thousands of dollars or $100 for a beautiful vintage number, it doesn’t matter as long as it is what you want for your unique wedding.

The flowers

Whether you incorporate your favourite flower or include a certain flower that is meaningful to you both or reminds you of loved one who has passed away, florals can make an incredible difference in creating a unique wedding. Perhaps you want to include a rose that is your namesake, like Claire’s Blush. You may be passionate about the environment and want sustainable flowers, grown organically and gathered from the local area. Maybe you want to hold a single peony and let that flower standalone against your dramatic dress. Again, do not be bound by tradition, instead, find something that is unique for you and share this part of yourself with your guests.

The cake.

Tradition really is out the door with this part of modern weddings celebrations and the options are endless. From naked cakes to themed cakes to cupcakes to doughnut boards to cheese wheel cakes, It is such a great opportunity to reflect your personalities in one of the last elements of the wedding that your guests experience. So, use your imagination and come up with something that is visually spectacular, delicious and that you and your partner adore. Cake tasting is often where partners who are a bit less-than-enthused about wedding planning really shine, so make sure that you’re both involved in the process!


As you can see with just a little bit of thought you can put together a wedding that is unique to you. Your wedding day is a very important day to you as a couple, so plan a day that celebrates who you are people, what saying your vows in front of your family and friends means to you and how you then want to celebrate this momentous event. Let it be a reflection of you, a creative masterpiece that you will be proud of and in love with for years to come.

Good Luck and happy planning

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